Marriage amendment fallout hits local tourism

By on May 10, 2012

Almost immediately after the results were announced of Tuesday’s statewide referendum on a Constitutional amendment that defines marriage, threats started to emerge that out-of-state visitors were going to start heading elsewhere.

In the 24 hours after the amendment passed overwhelmingly with 61 percent of 2.1 million votes, The Outer Banks Chamber of Commerce fielded calls and e-mails from regular visitors who say they have made their last trip to the state.

In Dare County, the amendment was voted down by 51 percent of the voters.

“Our phone rang continuously (Wednesday) but was quieter (Thursday),” said OBX Chamber vice president for media relations Angie Brady-Daniels.

“Other companies in the area are receiving similar complaints,” Brady-Daniels said.

“I understand that rental house contracts once signed are binding, but some have even commented that they will buy gas, groceries and supplies at the Virginia line in order to reduce the amount of spending they do on their vacation and the tax dollars our state receives,” Brady-Daniels added.

The constitutional amendment defines marriage between one man and one woman as the only valid domestic legal union in North Carolina.

Brady-Daniels said that all of the calls and emails mentioning the amendment to the Chamber have been negative.

“After a tough fall and winter of dealing with the aftermath of Hurricane Irene, discussions over ferry taxes, beach closures, beach driving permits, game fish regulations, state budget cuts to our local attractions, and even challenges with building the bridges and road structures we need, this is just another challenge at a difficult time for one of the few remaining strong industries in our state,” Brady-Daniels said.

Visit North Carolina on Facebook, run by the state Department of Commerce’s Division of Tourism, Film and Sports Development, logged 878 comments on the issue. An administrator admonished visitors to refrain from foul language and reminded them that the site was intended for discussions about travel, not politics.

Here are some excerpts of e-mails sent to The Outer Banks Chamber of Commerce following the passage of the amendment:

• ”My wife and I met in graduate school while attending the College of William and Mary. We took a number of trips to the Outer Banks, and enjoyed each better than the last. After graduation, we moved to upstate New York. Though quite a distance away, we have continued to visit whenever possible. But that has changed with the vote in North Carolina yesterday. We will not be visiting the Outer Banks or any other area of the state until this marriage inequality amendment is repealed…I hope to be able to visit your beautiful state in the near future, but until then my family will enjoy the wonders of Cape Cod. “

• “We just wanted to let you know that we have stopped planning our family reunion for next fall in Duck…our family had a teleconference this afternoon (including 99-year-old grandma/great and great-great grandma who grew up in Manteo)…we came together as a family and decided to spend our hard-earned (money) on Cape Cod, MA for obvious reasons.”

• ”Your beautiful Outer Banks will not be seeing one penny from this family (and our friends who will be receiving a similar letter). At our last family reunion, I believe we spent upwards of $70K for one weekend in September.”

• ”This email is so you know why we’re boycotting your state. We will also no longer do any furniture shopping in High Point. We will no longer charter fishing boats for blues. Your state no longer exists for us.”

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An OBX Girl

June 26, 2012 5:27 pm

Wow. I have read every comment here. I see the points-of-view of everyone on this site. There is a lot of hate here, sometimes wrapped in sweet words. I am a Southerner. I grew up on the Outer Banks. I am a Christian. One of my closest friends is a Lesbian. I love her just as much as I love my other closest friend who is heterosexual and married. I voted against Amendment One, not just because of my many friends in the GLBT community but because of my many friends who are single mothers, unmarried but living together, or life-long companions of a non-sexual manner.

When Jesus came to live in this world, He did so as a sacrificial lamb. His ultimate goal was to rid us of living by the Old Testament rules – things like not eating shellfish, stoning women who are not virgins on their wedding nights – by offering up His life as the one-pure, perfect soul of the world. He took our sins upon Him when He died on the cross. ALL OUR SINS! All of us are sinners, whether the worst thing you have done is tell a lie or if you took a life, it doesn’t matter to God. Sin is sin is sin. It is all hurtful to God.

Jesus was about love. His two commandments were to love your neighbor as yourself and to share the gospel through the world.

I am certain I will be slammed in my beliefs as a Christian. Both the non-Christians and the Christians will have something to say about how I believe and how I voted. As it was previously stated in numerous comments, NC already had a law in place banning homosexual unions, marriages, relationships, whatever you want to call it. Amendment One simply took that existing law and created a media frenzy out of it, including in it a number of other harmful additions to make life so much more difficult.

I have siblings who are parents living with their chosen partners. None of them are married. I shudder to imagine what could happen to them, and their children, should a tragedy befall.

I am a Christian. I support civil rights. I believe in loving everyone equally, as God loves us all equally. I do not judge others on their actions as I have no wish to sometimes be judged by mine. I am not perfect, I make mistakes, and I believe accepting others is part of love and life. I am not less educated because I was raised on the Outer Banks. I have an MBA in Marketing from Tulane University and have chosen to return to live on the Outer Banks. Last summer, I attended PrideFest. I was proud to stand with my friends in the GLBT community. I will be at PrideFest this year as well.

When it comes time to make decisions about where you will vacation, simply remember all of us Southerners are individuals, just like everyone else. Remember, not all of NC agrees with Amendment One. Not even all Christians in NC agree with Amendment One. We’re out here, standing with those “minorities” with our heads held high. If you truly believe what you are writing, why don’t you join us?


June 16, 2012 9:03 pm

Leigh, well said.


June 10, 2012 11:23 am

It is shocking to read the comments made by those who support the amendment; constitutional amendments should NEVER be backed by religious beliefs. Consitutional amendments should address important things that cover civil rights and the like.

Further, marriage is NOT a religious issue. Who cares who is Christian or Muslim? When a couple gets married it is up to that couple whether to have a religious wedding or not. There still has to be a license applied for with the state. A minister may do this but the couple can do it themselves, without any religious presence.

If you allow religion to direct your vote you are no different than those who live in the Middle East, under religious rule. There, they stone women to death for walking anywhere unaccompanied and have mandatory prayer several times a day. They also censor every single bit of media accessible by the public. In the U.S. we are supposed to defend freedom from a government controlled by religion. We are also supposed to support civil rights. The vast majority of the folks who vote in support of any legislation that limits the rights of others have substantially less education. Think about these points the next time you cast a vote. Leave your religion out of legal issues.


May 19, 2012 10:12 pm

To G. Gibbs,
I would love to sit down and talk with you, have a real conversation and try to understand the root of your ideas about homosexuality. First, “how do gays reproduce”: We reproduce the same way everyone else does. It takes a egg and sperm. If the question is “where do gays come from”, well they come from and egg and sperm.

Second, “They recruit your children, grandchildren and the weak.” Really? I have been a homosexual my entire life and I have never heard of “recruitment”, I have never been “recruited” and I have never imagined “recruiting” anyone for anything. I love children, but I don’t want to have sex with them any more than you. Homosexual doesn’t mean “sexual pedophile predator”, it simply means we have adult sexual relationships with other adults of the same sex.

Third, “opens the door to all kinds of kooky marriage” is not a correct statement. I’m not sure who is perpetuating this ignorant piece of misinformation, but you already can not marry your dog, your cat, your “insert your most ridiculous idea here”.

Please read my previous post. I am your neighbor, shouldn’t you love your neighbor? It’s not about what you see as sexual perversion. It’s about love. Love one another. Judge not least you be judged.

Bill Noble

May 18, 2012 1:14 pm

Why are people so dumb to believe that tourists will stop coming to OBX. Do they think that NC is the only state to have such a law. Probably so. This will blow over and no one will even care or remember. Actually we could use a few less tourists. Then the locals could enjoy the OBX in the summer as well as the winter.


May 17, 2012 8:35 am


May 17, 2012 8:23 am

Most of these comments go to show how uneducated people where on the truth behind this amendment. It has nothing to do with Adam and Steve.. it was already illegal for them to get married or have any rights in north Carolina. It really affected Jill and John who have been together for the last 12 years, but never married. They saw that as just a silly formality and just a silly piece of paper so they never got hitched.
Last weekend Jill was traveling down the bypass when she slammed into that great new median in front of lowes. (she didn’t notice it and lives back off 1st street.) As she was taken by ambulance to the OBX hospital she cried out please call John hes my only family here. But the staff couldn’t call him, because they aren’t married. Hours later when Jills aunt let John know what was going on John rushed to the hospital only to be told Jill wasn’t there she had been heli-flighted out.. to what hospital you ask? We don’t know John wasn’t her family so they couldn’t tell him. Hours later after phone calls to Jills “family” he tracked down his beloved lady. Rushed to the hospital in VA to be told “We can’t share that information with you sir. You are not her husband or immediate family.” Meanwhile Jill lay in a hospital room all alone wondering why the love of her life wasn’t with her yet. She needs a life saving surgery but no one is there to sign for it. She hopes John gets there soon because he knows exactly what she wants when it comes to life and death. Too bad she’ll die in that room while the one person who could have saved her life prays in the waiting room that someone helps her. John has to explain to the babies how come mommies not coming back. His heart is broken. Then something else happens. You see Jill had a child before she met john. She was young and free and the father of her oldest is a drunk and drug addict. He has had nothing to do with his child since birth and John has “raised” this child as his own since the child was very very young. This kid knows no one else but john as his father. One day shortly after the funeral there is a knock at the door. It is the state coming to return the oldest to his natural father. That’s right, John is not the child’s father and does not have custody so the child will be taken to its biological family. Another blow to an already devastated family. Jill had invested a good amount of money and when John goes to the lawyer to discuss Jill’s will he finds out that it doesn’t matter cause they weren’t married. Therefore John isn’t entitled to death benefits, SSI, or insurance. All because John and Jill didn’t want that silly piece of paper. And because people voted on a bill before they understood the full consequences of what that bill meant for every family in NC. Thanks guys.. now John is with out Jill. Adam never had a chance with Steve to begin with.

Tune in often as I know another story about the time that Earl beat sally.. Its a good one..


May 16, 2012 9:44 pm

Did anyone else see the article in the Va Pilot about the Gay Pride Festival coming up soon – it actually had 500 MORE people sign up to come since the Amendment… Maybe they realize that coming here and showing NC that they are people like everyone else can only help.

T. Manner

May 16, 2012 7:01 pm

Good riddance. Notice how the leftwing bigots on here blame Christians for this when the fact is that many non-Christians don’t want this behavior around their children either.
Read Dr. Paul Cameron et. al. on homosexuality.
Why does the media suppress the AIDS pandemic?

g. gibbs

May 16, 2012 10:17 am

Its sad that the ob only won this vistory by 1%. If allowed, it opens the door to more kooky marriages, by the way how do gays reproduce?……….they recruit, your children, grand children, and the weak.We are better off without it……………………..


May 16, 2012 7:01 am

The U.S. is not a democracy. In a democracy, the people have total say as to how government is conducted. It is a Republic. Our Representatives are supposed to vote according to their constituents’ decisions. Yeah, right.

Anyway, democracy always degenerates into anarchy, so the U.S. is representative of the people based on democratic principals. Anyway, that’s the way it’s supposed to work.

Bless your hearts

May 15, 2012 10:14 pm

Guess my comment was too harsh because I see it was deleted! Truth hurts! All I have to say to those boycotting …. Bless your hearts.


May 15, 2012 6:59 pm

KHer, they are not protesting Democracy – they are protesting bigotry. It’s very simple. You can protest a decision without protesting the process. I can’t believe I even half to type this, but I guess some people will use any misdirection to avoid the truth.


May 15, 2012 6:45 pm

@KHer – n.b. the difference between “[Pure] Democracy” and “[Representational] Democracy.” The USA is the latter.


May 15, 2012 5:08 pm

So some say they are not coming here as a protest. Do they not realize they are protesting democracy? The voters made this decision.

Make one wonder what form of government they might prefer?

Stupid is as stupid does

May 15, 2012 2:04 pm

If these touists feel this way then they are more than welcome to go to the crowed beaches of NY and suck in toxic air and water!


May 15, 2012 1:58 pm

More room on the beach for my family! What does this all have to do with a vacation? France allows kids to smoke, well at least they did in 1999. I still vacationed there!

Pat Avon

May 15, 2012 1:24 pm

Did not know how many bogots lived here.. they keep hiding in the closets and behind the church..I was married for 43 years and not gay.. never thought anyone would prevent another happiness, no matter what sex they sad..We have a constitution, where has it gone. What does it matter, it does not harm you..unless you are not who YOU want to be..


May 15, 2012 11:04 am

“The Greeks, Spain, France, Italy, Ireland and Portugal are just about ready to drag our collective butts back down into the hole we never managed to climb out of.

This sexual-preference stuff is just a distraction for you. Keep the hicks fighting while we at the top secure more personal and corporate wealth.”

-EXACTLY! You hit the nail on the head, my friend! (What? There’s something going on with the big banks? Really?)


May 14, 2012 10:02 pm

Ugh, came to NC for school, stayed here for work. Need to get the heck out of this crazy place – I fear it’s not the type of place I want to raise a family, since I will be teaching my kids that one group’s beliefs should not dictate the rights of another. Sad state of affairs…

Meanwhile, back at he farm

May 14, 2012 9:25 pm

NC would have done well years ago to pass a State Constitutional amendment to ban the overseas outsourcing of entire mill-towns and a furniture industry, even if the jobs were held by homosexual couples.

Meanwhile, back at he farm

May 14, 2012 9:15 pm

The Greeks, Spain, France, Italy, Ireland and Portugal are just about ready to drag our collective butts back down into the hole we never managed to climb out of.

This sexual-preference stuff is just a distraction for you. Keep the hicks fighting while we at the top secure more personal and corporate wealth. Y’all can argue about homosexuality while you stand in the unemployment line.

Get your priorities straight. The biggest threat to your heterosexual marriage is divorce. Divorce kills more than half of heterosexual marriages. Banning divorce would do so much more than Prop 1 to “protect” marriage. Newt is on what number marriage, now? And how about . . . Rush? How many divorces killed how many of his marriages??? Who cares????

John Edwards's Love Child

May 14, 2012 8:59 pm

My Daddy is a good Christian and he was representing his values as a proud Tarheel when knocked up my Mom.


May 14, 2012 1:08 pm

For exiled OBXer: Well written and I hope someday your life will be easier and you will be accepted. I voted against Amendment 1. I believe in all men created equal. I also believe that God loves all people.


May 14, 2012 12:25 pm

hey will don’t blame the gop. If your liberal buddies don’t care enough to get out and vote good for them. the right to vote is the same in may as november. they knew it was on the ballot. they just didn’t care.


May 14, 2012 12:08 pm

Homosexuals have the exact same rights as heterosexuals, they can choose to marry anyone of the opposite sex!

Wonder how many are going to come here on vacation because they’re happy with our vote?


May 13, 2012 11:08 pm

I am a resident of KH, life-long North Carolinian, I am a mother of beautiful children, I contribute to my local community in many different ways. I have never been arrested for anything, I have tried to treat people that I work with and meet on a daily basis with respect and human compassion. My heart broke with the passing of this amendment that made me a second-class citizen, making sure that my children will not have two loving parents that are legally married because of the bigotry of my fellow citizens. My life isn’t a choice, it’s my life. My life isn’t an issue to be debated trading bible verses, it’s my life. My life isn’t up for you to vote on my happiness, it’s just my life. Why are you afraid of love? I have found happiness with my soul-mate, the love of my life, and we have committed ourselves to each other. It is just about love, and love is love. God loves us ALL.

exiled OBXer

May 13, 2012 11:06 pm

I was born transgender. I didn’t choose to be born that way. In fact I fought it most of my life. I spent years hiding what I was and trying to be what others expected me to be.

I know that I was born that way because I was emulating mannerisms and dress habits of the gender I align with before I could even speak, before I even had conscious memories of childhood. I’ve seen the pictures from my toddler years that prove it to be true. Some of my earliest conscious memories also involved experimenting with the trappings of the gender I identify with. But aside from the obvious evidence that I was trying to be who I am now before I even knew anything about gender identity or sexual orientation there is another reason that I know I was born transgender. I know I was born that way because no sane person would choose to live a life filled with this level of persecution, hate and intolerance. Any rational human being on the planet would “choose” to be normal if they could, simply to avoid the bullying, abuse, prejudice, discrimination and terror of being transgender (closeted or otherwise).

That desperate desire to be normal caused me to hide from the world for decades, it caused me unending private misery, and it interfered tremendously with my ability to live my life with the freedom that ALL citizens of this country are guaranteed at birth.

And why did I want to be normal? I wanted to be normal so I wouldn’t be the target of the kind of hatred, scorn, prejudice, bigotry, ignorance, and intolerance I see spread all across these comments here today. I wanted to be normal because I didn’t want to lose my family, my friends, and almost everything else I held dear. I wanted to be normal so I can live my life in peace happiness and freedom like anybody else would.

I didn’t choose to be transgender, but I did finally choose to stop running from myself, stop hiding in the closet and stop masquerading as somebody I wasn’t. The cost to do so however has been high. I can never go home again. I will never attend a high school reunion, I will never be accepted by those I once called friends, or family that I still love. I know all this to be true because the words of hatred and religious intolerance I see here could be written by any member of my family, any friend I once had, and any person I ever knew growing up.

Thank you voters of North Carolina for reminding me that proud Tar Heel thoigh I may be, I will most likely never walk the beaches of the Outer Banks again, never catch another ferry to Ocracoke, and never again climb the steps of Cape Hatteras light. Thank you for showing me that if I have doubts about whether or not I might finally be accepted, I need only read your narrow minded bigotry, and hatred, to be reminded I can never go home again.

Susan P

May 13, 2012 10:28 pm

The constitution says nothing about a majority being a % of the population. It’s a % of those who vote. Perhaps the large % who failed to vote knew that the extremists on the left and the right would write unpleasant, rude, puerile and fallacious comments. We ALL need to reread these posts, dig deep into our hearts, and decide how we want to continue….maybe it is time to regress back into being respectful of one anothers rights. Try, go ahead, you can do it, drop the attitude, and kiss some one you hate today! Down with all extremists!


May 13, 2012 8:07 pm

Talk about your basic OVER REACTION! This is sort of like all the Bubbas of Mississippi who said they would move to Canada or Mexico if a black man were elected. None left!

There will be NO impact on the economy of the OBX nor NC due to this “law” and anyone who thinks there will be is just OVER REACTING! Get a life…or maybe even a job!
BTW, I fully support such a “law”.


May 13, 2012 6:01 pm

I hope this hits directly in the wallet of every business owner and worker of them who voted for the amendment

Prince of Peeps

May 13, 2012 4:07 pm

Rainbow Equality’s spiteful tirade is more proof of the evil hatred on their side, not ours. You are the haters, not us. Please do go the DC. Good riddance. Your absence will make our state a brighter place.


May 13, 2012 11:35 am

I voted against the amendment even though I don’t approve of homosexual “marriage.” And I think it is absolutely correct for those who have strong feelings about the issue to choose to spend their money in a location that embraces the concept. We do that in international relations with sanctions against nations we don’t want to bomb into submission, we hit their wallet in an attempt to modify behavior. The Outer Banks, although largely now devoid of any real identification with the people of North Carolina, are still a part of North Carolina. North Carolina seeks to adhere to the traditional definition of marriage and voted to do so by a very large majority. Those who disagree should spend money elsewhere, and those homosexuals who wish to marry should move elsewhere.

Just Sayin...

May 13, 2012 10:14 am

Three points -

Rodger, NC is the 31st state to ban gay marriage with a state constitutional amendment and the U.S. Supreme Court hasn’t overturned any of those amendments.

Florida banned gay marriage in 2008 and tourism is alive and well in Key West, which is arguably the gayest city in America.

42 states currently ban gay marriage by state law or constitutional amendment. That doesn’t leave many vacation destinations for the boycotters.


May 13, 2012 10:01 am

It is truly sad to see over and over again how people will sell their beliefs and better judgement for the DOLLAR.
Last year after the hurricane commissioners and store owners sold the safety of the visitors and work crews for the DOLLAR.
When will this greed stop. This goes beyond the gay issue. It has soaked all the way thru the soul of most people and civic leaders that live here.
So I hope that those who have sold out for the DOLLAR get all that coming to them..

Bob neil

May 13, 2012 9:46 am

Glad to see this is going to hurt some of the bigots in the state of NC.


May 13, 2012 9:06 am

To That Teenager: Follow your dream!! Most young people that want to make anything of themselves will leave a high unemployment, high drug use, isolated area for better opportunities. Unless you have a “royal” Outer Banks name, at least try another area for a while. Best of luck to you and know that there IS some place where you will fit in!

Rainbow Equality

May 13, 2012 12:43 am

Amendment 1 sucks. It brings back memories of California’s Proposition 8. You know they are still fighting over that one in Federal courts. Every year court cases for Prop 8 cost millions. Not hundreds or thousands, but millions and it will continue for years to come. The funny part is. That money doesn’t go to the state either. it goes to the Federal Government. California was already in economic trouble before Prop 8 and the passing of Prop 8 helped to push them right over the edge into bankruptcy. As we all know, North Carolina is also not exactly sitting on a gold mine. Although very soon the Federal Government will think so, because very soon, You bile thumpers out there, will be spending your millions to fight it in court for years to come. And the opposing side will also. The problem is, that all of those millions will be taken away from your little churches. That money will be taken away from creating jobs. will be taken away from education. It will be taken away from your children. You know what, I look forward to the nice long fight. And we can celebrate mission accomplished together! Yay we all worked as a team to help bankrupt NC! More people loosing their jobs and their homes. yay Good job. They can sleep nice at night in their beds knowing that gays can not be married. But wait a second.. They will not have beds in a few years because they voted on an amendment that will cost millions to defend in court.. What is California up to now? what??? billions of dollers spend? well well well. Im sure some of you have that laying around in your piggy banks. You were warned. Now we get to sit back and watch… A battle has been won. But the war is just beginning. This amendment will fail once the state goes bankrupt. and for the record. the 28 other states that I did not mention. they are fighting it there also. Texas is on its way to federal court now. Their law will fail just as this law will fail. In the end, Those who are against this thing. will win.. as for me and my family. We will be going to Washington DC where we are equal and respected. Enjoy spending your vacation money in court really soon! It sounds like real fun. Enjoy. it will be your life for years to come so get used to it.

Dazed and Confused

May 12, 2012 9:08 pm


May 12, 2012 8:38 pm

hey bill…..guess what? just because the by-pass in nags head is busy doesn’t mean it’s busy down here on hatteras island. i own a business in buxton and it was dead slow today. further more…….we walked out to the point yesterday afternoon, some of it in the water to avoid the ‘protected’ area. today they closed the point. if you want to fish out there, you have to walk out there in the water and stand in the water the whole time you fish. we were surprised how few birds were out there too. they must have been flying around looking for human protection.


May 12, 2012 8:15 pm

larry bakber — Mountains are not exclusive to NC. Many other states have mountains.


May 12, 2012 7:45 pm

I wish I was ordaned so I could marry a lesbian couple and get arrested so I could take it to the U.S. Supreme Court!

In the U.S. Declaration of Independence the founding fathers stated that we had the rights to Life, Liberty and the Pursuit of happiness. As long as a person does nothing to remove those rights from another person, what an individual does is their own business. No law should abate the opportunity of any United States Citizen to have any of those three rights. The NC amendment 1 is completely about removing someone’s ability to seek happiness. It is nothing other than a abridgment of the rights declared by our founding fathers. A couple of the same sex having a civil union does not interfere with anyone elses right to life, liberty or their own pursuit of happiness.

There are three reasons I see that someone wants to outlaw Gay marriage. 1. They are homophobic 2. Their religion is against it. Neither 1 nor 2 are legitimate legal arguments to pass a law to restrict anything. 3. Arguments about children in gay households being neglected or abused or morally destitute etc… (which is the only legally legitimate reason and is NOT supported by scientific data).

I can’t wait to see this go to the supreme court!


May 12, 2012 7:00 pm

I voted against the amendment. So did Dare County. Most of the Outer Banks being castigated is in Dare County. It’s just nuts to boycott in this situation. Seriously, what sense does it make???? If my brother ticks you off, why punish me?? Stupid.


May 12, 2012 6:18 pm

Barely over 10% of the population of nc voted for it so it is not a majority of the citizens of NC. 34% of registered voters voted in the primary, that’s why the GOP chose it instead of the general election because it would be more of their supporters than the public as whole. 61% of 34% is not a true majority.

The bible also says many other things you hypocrites refuse to acknowledge so it’s funny you chose gay people
To denigrate.


May 12, 2012 3:50 pm

Yea, this place will be packed as ever this summer. Heck even today, the bypass traffic reminded me of Rt 7 in N.VA.

Just as with the nonsense ORV worries that tourism will be down on Hatteras Island, there will be no change. The houses will be packed, traffic will be heavy, and summer 2012 will go on as usual. Perhaps there will be fewer ORVs on the beaches at open ramps; however, more people will be getting some exercise by walking out onto the beach with fishing poles, umbrellas, and coolers.


May 12, 2012 3:13 pm

If it will keep twice as many away then can we vote on it again. Lived here most of my 70+ years and I HATE tourist season. They give me another reason that I am proud I voted for admin 1.


May 12, 2012 3:02 pm

Darren Spedale, a law and business student at Stanford University, who studied divorce rates in Denmark in 1996-97, seven years after same-sex registered partnerships were legalized found that 17 percent of gay partnerships ended in divorce compared with 46 percent of the straight relationships.

“Same-sex couples who enter into marriage-type relationships have obviously given it much more thought”, said Spedale.

My guess is Jesus would be on the side of enduring relationships no matter what the sexual preference.


May 12, 2012 2:15 pm

The majority should not be voting on the rights of a minority. Ever.


May 12, 2012 2:09 pm

Larry…wrong again there buddy (are you a evolution denier as well?) tons of animals in the animal kingdom (humans included) have more than one mate, alot are even asexual and some even reproduce with their paretns (gasp)!!


May 12, 2012 2:06 pm

ol ekim….pray away the gay there buddy! It it makes your marriage that much better knowing somewhere in NC two men love each other then good on ya.

Prince of Peeps

May 12, 2012 2:04 pm

It’s so hypocritical that the gays call us the haters, when they are the ones spewing all the venom and vitriol, and doing all the ugly name calling in their posts. You are the true haters, and if you don’t want to come to NC, I say good riddance. We don’t want such bad manners in our state. And to the like minded who live here, if it is so bad, I invite you to go wherever you think is better.


May 12, 2012 1:23 pm

Just because the majority of North Carolina voted for it doesn’t make it “just”. The majority of North Carolina would bring back tar and feathering. Welcome to the “south”.


May 12, 2012 12:46 pm

It looks like people would be more worried about fixing tourist deterrents like a half working ferry system. Now that’s a problem when it’s not STRAIGHT!!

I wonder who would be more concerned with seeing that NC DOT gets the money it needs to maintain roads and that the Federal Government keep contributing to transit channel clearing? Would it be Barack Obama or Conservative lightweight Mitt Romney?

It must really be agony in this Presidential election year for conservative voters. It’s all too funny. This year’s entertainment has already been great with the likes of Newt, Perry, Cain, and company, but figuring out what Mitt will morph into next just makes it even more comic central. Nothing like America!!


May 12, 2012 12:38 pm

What I’ve read so far are from all of the gay sympathizers. I haven’t seen anything from someone who says they are gay. I haven’t heard any of the LGBT’s say they are not coming down in June.


May 12, 2012 12:36 pm

Kildevilhillbilly, you are full of it. see you around


May 12, 2012 11:28 am

Not one house will be empty because of this vote! This place will be packed! We voted the way we did to prove a point!WE DONT CARE IF YOUR GAY TO GUYS MARRIED OR 2 GALS MARRIED ARE NOT THE SAME AS ME AN MY WIFE GET OVER IT!!!


May 12, 2012 10:33 am

The Amendment did nothing to change what was already on the books. You now have to VOTE to change it. The authors of this Amendment were worried that LAWMAKERS (voted in by US) would change the LAW to allow “Unions”. NOW, We have to VOTE to change the Constitution. In short the authors did not trust the lawmakers whom we voted to represent us. They new it would be more difficult to have another VOTE to change it. They won. Now for the sad part. Buxton 23% turnout, I guess they really don’t care who makes the Park Service run.
Nags Head 29% turnout, less than 1/3 care if Gays kiss on our beach. And the Heroes…Stumpy Point 41%, they should be proud and happy they are getting what they vote for…

larry bakber

May 12, 2012 10:14 am

Between the yankees and the half backs (Florida folks that were originally from the NORTH) out here in WNC we are filled up with folks that may now stay home. Good riddance. Even the wild animals pair up with one male and female… GEEEEZE what’s simpler than that.


May 12, 2012 10:09 am

To the offended tourists – OK one more time – what difference does it make how anyone voted? You are going on vacation for crying out loud!!!
Because of the vote is your vacation going to be any different? If you want to hang blame on NC, the OBX and have a preconceived idea that we hate people of the LGBT community so be it. How does that make any sense? Have we not welcomed you here in the past? Has anyone mistreated you in NC in the past? Get a life, stop complaining, and go take a deep breath – and hopefully take a relaxing vacation you need one!

larry bakber

May 12, 2012 8:54 am

Wonderful news. The leftist mainstream news media didn’t get their way for a CHANGE. And the state didn’t FOLLOW them. Must be a pattern here! I live in WNC and the news from ABC was just full of this junk and how it would hurt our tourist industry. Darn it will sure stop people from moving here by the thousands. Darn. I have not read the entire set of posts yet but I did like the one from Ohio. Perhaps those folks from the North will go to their own beaches and mountains…. OOPS… bad plan as the mtns are HERE in WNC.

Island Safety

May 12, 2012 8:39 am

Republican talking points memo excerpt:
Conservative fundamentals: “As people who promote personal responsibility, family values, commitment and stability, and emphasize freedom and limited government we have to recognize that freedom means freedom for everyone. This includes the freedom to decide how you live and to enter into relationships of your choosing, the freedom to live without excessive interference of the regulatory force of government.

We’ll see.

Kevin Gray Conner

May 12, 2012 8:32 am

Conservatives and traditionalists should not allow themselves to be drawn into a debate that as of Tuesday was decided by a plurality of those that voted. Amendment 1 is now North Carolina law and we should now focus on the next great challenge, the defeat of President Barack Obama!


May 12, 2012 6:45 am

Nc – first in flight, forty-nineth in education.

John S.

May 11, 2012 11:23 pm

Just remember, Cali flaming fornia passed Proposition 8, so it should not come as such a shock that a southern state that is home of the Billy Graham Library passed such an amendment. I voted against A1, but I’m just saying people should not profile the entire state as bigots that are full of hate and prejudices.


May 11, 2012 11:01 pm

I don’t believe for a second that people are “born” gay. It is a learned behavior. Now that it is shoved down our throats (no pun intended) everyday, through media, tv shows, movies, etc, isn’t funny how pop culture is making it seem almost cool to be gay.As far as a few tourists not coming here this summer….great! Traffic won’t back up into Currituck as bad on Saturdays and Sundays! I didn’t make my money nor does my family depend on the exploitation of this beautiful area to survive. I could care less if another tourist ever crossed the state line.


May 11, 2012 10:27 pm

GREAT comment Ricardo


May 11, 2012 10:11 pm

I really doubt that a person who wanted to spend $70,000 for a weekend would spend it on the NC coast. That’s such BS. Actually, we do not care if any of you come here again … please stay away. Your threats are useless. We southerners do not need you.

Bottom line – the Bible says marriage is between a man and a woman. Humankind has no right to change that. This issue is not about race, it’s about gender and sex. Do not confuse the two.

The reason homosexuals want to be legally married is all about money – they want employers to pay the insurance of their partners. This is not fair to employers.

I guess in 50 years there will be an amendment to legalize pedophilia.


May 11, 2012 10:04 pm

Its a sad day when we as americans let a CHURCH dictate to us on how we are to live our lives! all of you right winged idiots should really wake up. Whats really funny is most of the men that are against this has cheated on their wife/girl friend a time or two with another man. I personally have vacationed there many times and will NEVER support your state again until this is changed. All the bible thumpers one question, Who pays your mortgage and puts food on your tables? NOT YOUR CHURCH!! All these freaks and their churches, have you ever counted how many you have in your local areas? Do everyone know that not a single one has to pay taxes!! Do they help you pay your taxes? didnt think so.

Heres an idea… Let every gay man and women take ALL of their HARD earned money out of the bank systems for 1 week and see what happens. Let every gay man or women stop working and paying taxes for 1 week, what impact withh that have not only on the goverment, but all you women who will do your hair? how will decorate your home or church? pretty scary huh!

I for one say that NC say go to hell until this is lifted! and before you leave a comment about being glad that I wont be back to your state, your welcome! roll around in your own hatred.

Dazed and Confused

May 11, 2012 9:30 pm

What would Jesus do?

Beach will be better

May 11, 2012 9:29 pm

I’m glad those opposing the amendment want to boycott OBX. That will make for better quality visitors. We haven’t been for a few years but will definitely be staying for a week in Sept. And my daughters will heading down Monday to spend money for a few days.


May 11, 2012 9:21 pm

“The modern conservative is engaged in one of man’s oldest exercises in moral philosophy; that is, the search for a superior moral justification for selfishness.”

~John Kenneth Galbraith

Perhaps this is articulating the obvious, but it speaks volumes as to how religion is misused by those desiring empowerment.


May 11, 2012 9:07 pm

This discussion is like a barbecue grill. Ignorance is the charcoal. Emotion is the lighter fluid. Disagreement is the match.


May 11, 2012 9:06 pm

Well….If I had known that the amendment would have resulted in less obnoxious yankees venturing into our lovely state, I wouldn’t have voted against it.


May 11, 2012 8:52 pm

How would the straight men and women feel if we held a vote on their marriage rights? I’m gay and a person just like you so to be completely fair maybe we should vote on your marriages. Even though it would never happen just think about how you would feel if your right to love and share a marriage with someone was in the hands of prejudice people. You all say that your not but you really are. Here’s a thought stop worriying about me and my “sins” one day I will be able to marry the man I love and it will be even more special because I had to fight for my love. Most of you women that voted against it have sinned far worse and the men for sure did. Maybe you get along with gays but don’t believe they should have the right to marry well that seems selfish and honestly like you are in educated in your own beleifs because only god can pass judgement but you already know that yet you continue to judge my lifestyle and you allow yourself that its okay because its in the bible. I dont think god put the bible on this earth so people could bully others with it.


May 11, 2012 8:49 pm

Just wanted to say that having 18 OTHER STATES to visit (as well as lots of places outside the US) are plenty for me. It’s not going to be difficult to spend my $6K plus in vacation money someplace else (that doesn’t codify bigotry into its laws). Not a problem. Enjoy your small minds, and faux Christianity.

larry bakber

May 11, 2012 8:44 pm


The mountains are the only ones in lots of miles.. They will come… The wild animals have this figured out why not the gay folks?

That Teenageer

May 11, 2012 8:33 pm

I can’t wait to move from NC for good. Nearly everyone against it is close minded,their beaches suck, the locals are rude and inconsiderate to each other, the kids are raised wrong, they don’t treat each other or others the way they want to be treated, they marry their cousins, the homeowners are terrible people, the renters never clean their sh*t when they leave, there are no jobs ANYWHERE, and to top it all off…

Rent is Too Damn High!!!


May 11, 2012 8:19 pm

I’m not saying who is right and who is wrong. Maybe gay marriage is a sin, maybe it isn’t. It all depends on beliefs. I’m merely saying why does it matter. If a (wo)man wants to marry another (wo)man, how does that directly affect you personally? It’s not they THEY are throwing it down your throats that you should marry someone of the same sex. All they want to do is get married and be out of your hair. You can have your opinions. I don’t care what you *think* but rather why do you have to force it on people that will never be part of your life? Let them do what they want. Stop trying to control everyone, because you can’t. I could not care less if you don’t want them to marry or not. The fact is that their lives do not cross over into yours. They have rights just as everyone else does. All I’m trying to say is that if you don’t like gays, fine. You don’t have to be around them. But you do NOT have the right to force this on them. Why can’t we all agree to disagree and go back to where we feel comfortable and let everyone do whatever they want?

Mike C

May 11, 2012 7:54 pm

Pride fest is coming up in June, I hope they can use this to show the rest of the country that not all of North Carolina is homophobic and backwards, and the Outer Banks is a very Gay friendly place too visit. So lets get the word out and make Pridefest a big success! Once people see how open armed we are with the gay community here on the Outer Banks, the folks saying they won’t visit just might come after all!


May 11, 2012 7:50 pm

Aw now, come on back to the Outer Banks! The folks there will take your spending money regardless of what you are. Enjoy the vacation. Some will take other things as well too if you let ‘em. Then you just leave, the way they want you to. Everybody wins. After all, a vacation is only temporary!

dave douglas

May 11, 2012 7:20 pm

In all of my years I have yet to figure out how and why people will travel to, then fall in love with a place, some even relocate to it and then put forth the greatest effort in turning into what they were trying to get away from in the first place!
This place has gone through some radical changes in my lifetime and it’s still a good place to be. I have been many places in this country and I’ve found myself really hard pressed to find the quality and quantity of good people that are right here. If I were to visit New York, Illinois, Colorado or any other place; I don’t think it would be very reasonable for that entire state to bow down to my personal requirements to facilitate that visit!

Prince of Peeps

May 11, 2012 7:15 pm

Here is an article that should be of interest to both sides of the issue, (the last couple of sections in particular.) It calls into question the necessity for a state marriage license. Do we need a license, state permission, to exercise our rights? Before whose eyes are we married, God’s — or the state’s. If you don’t believe in God, what difference does it make if you marry? If you do believe in God, stand before witnesses, and record the union, then God’s approval is all that matters. (The only question is if He approves of homosexual unions.) All the other issues of hospital visitation, inheritance, etc. can all be handled with contracts, and have nothing to do with marriage.

@ Marco: you have it exactly backwards. Marriage was established by God, and government got into it late (1927,) first, to manipulate and control the public, and second, to raise revenue.


May 11, 2012 6:56 pm

This is a bit silly, because Dare County did not vote for hate and bigotry like all the other country-cluck backwards cousin-marrying counties of the state. Those who want to boycott NC should save it for those counties, not punish Dare, Raleigh, Chapel Hill/carrboro, Asheville, Charlotte etc. We’re not the ones who supported bigotry, ignorance and hate. Boycott Smithfield Hams and the agri-businesses. Let the bigots lose their jobs and homes.


May 11, 2012 6:46 pm

Geez, people! The vote is in. Like it, love it or hate it, just get over it! One of the greatest things about this country is the fact that the people are given the right to vote their consciences and convictions. The majority has spoken in our state, and now the whining and boycotting and whatever else has begun from those unhappy that things didn’t go the way that they hoped. Despite all the campaigning from both sides of the issue, one side won and one side was voted down. Stop pouting and dishing out blame because things didn’t go your way. It’s over. The people have spoken, many against but most in favor. It’s time to let it go. What’s done is done. Move on, people.


May 11, 2012 6:44 pm

dont forget if the wife isnt a virgin when she marries she is to be stoned to death!! i think that should bring back the tourists!!! btw i am embarrased to be a nc native at this point and plan on moving to another state and you guys can have my 2,500 state tax bill (and that above and beyond my standard state taxes
i pay every week) btw the bible says u can have slaves and beat them as long as they dont die on the day you beat them!! lets go ahead and pass this too!!

Susan Pfaff

May 11, 2012 6:38 pm

I live in Shaker Heights and have been visiting OBX for over twenty years. In fact, we bought a house in Nags Head a few years ago and it will be our retirement home (eventually). I was sorry to hear that NC voted for the amendment to discriminate–I thought the U.S. was leaning toward more tolerance, not less. However, I do know that the majority of Dare County residents voted the amendment down and that, in my opinion, is encouraging. For renters to say they are not coming to OBX due to the new NC amendment is ridiculous. I know this, because Shaker Heights, Ohio, where I live outside of Cleveland, is as blue as New York or California–although Southwest Ohio is red as Mississippi. There are good and bad politics everywhere.

ralph 0bx

May 11, 2012 6:26 pm

” It is pretty obvious that a lot of gay couples or single people come to the Outer Banks for vacations,” should read ” It is pretty obvious that a lot of gay couples or single people DON’T come to the Outer Banks for vacations,” My Bad.

ralph 0bx

May 11, 2012 6:22 pm

I think it’s funny how some people assume that gay people live alone, without extended families. It is pretty obvious that a lot of gay couples or single people come to the Outer Banks for vacations, but they do come down for large gatherings like family reunions and family weddings.

So, it won’t be the 3 night hotel room stays that will be affected. It will be the large houses on the beach, the $1000 food purchases, and the group visits to attractions and large fishing boat charters. It will be the party rental businesses, the marriage industry, caterers, and restaurants that will be hit. Who wants to have a wedding where the bride or grooms gay sister or brother doesn’t feel welcome.

Amendment One didn’t do anything. There was already a law in place against marriage equality. It was North Carolina citizens affirming that they do NOT like gay people, and don’t think they are equal citizens of the state who deserve equal protection under that law. It was a referendum against the civil rights of people.

I come from a large Irish family. Four years ago we had a reunion here of just my brothers and sisters and their children and their children’s children. People came from as far away as California. There were about 50 people. Close family stayed with me and we rented two houses on the beach and a number of hotel rooms. Last year cousins had a reunion about 20 people, two houses on the beach.

We are planning a large reunion next year for the matriarch’s birthday. It was supposed to be here. My family includes gay nephews and nieces and gay cousins and second cousins, who are accepted and loved by all the entire family. If they don’t feel comfortable coming to North Carolina, we’ll have it in Maryland. That’s about 120-130 people not coming here. Some for a day, some for a week.

So, if you think Amendment One won’t affect tourism here because the Outer Banks is a family destination, you’re dead wrong. Good families protect their own.


May 11, 2012 6:18 pm

I don’t care who marries who, but I seriously doubt there will be any noticeable difference in tourism because of this amendment. Furthermore, it is absurd to think that this will have more of a negative effect on tourism than our still dormant economy. Anyone want to wager the bypass will be slow as always during the summer? How about some wagers that the bridge coming here on Sunday afternoon around 3:00 p.m. will be so backed up you’ll think there’s an accident on the other side? Then again, most of these people really weren’t coming here anyway were they?

Prince of Peeps

May 11, 2012 6:07 pm

To all who keep bringing up “separation of church and state.” That phrase is nowhere in the Constitution. The 1st Amendment says, “Congress shall make no law respecting an establishment of religion, or prohibiting the free exercise thereof.” Congress is restricted, not religion.

First, the restriction from creating a state church applies only to the federal government. States are free to establish a state church if their citizens so wish and vote for it. Second, the federal government cannot prohibit the free exercise of religion. Here again, states may regulate religion, if they so choose. At least that’s how it was until 1947, Everson V. BoA, when FDR-appointed, activist judges decided it was time for the federal government to start telling the states what they could or couldn’t do, what the will or won’t do, rather than the states retaining the rights not enumerated to the federal government by the US Constitution. States’ Rights and the 10th Amendment were thrown right out the window.

But still, even with the US Constitution applying to the states, states may not create a state religion, nor may they restrict the free exercise thereof. It does not say that citizens may not have their views reflected in their government. (There is no legality to “separation of church and state,” remember.) If people want to say that same sex marriage will not be acknowledged, that is not the same as establishing a religion, even if based on religious beliefs, and it is not prohibiting free exercise of any religion. As long as no Constitutional rights are being violated (none are,) majority rules. If people don’t like that, I suggest they get over it, or all move to one state where they can take over and live happy as a clam.

Danielle Devereaux

May 11, 2012 5:56 pm

I think all the people who do not treat others as they want to be treated, especially when it comes to sexuality, race, religion should all congregate in Alabama and Mississippi and just hate themselves all the way to hell.

All true Christians who love thy neighbor, don’t judge and live by example should be separated from these idiotic bigots.

Rob Morris

May 11, 2012 5:35 pm

Always curious . . .
RE: WRAL. That is an old figure that was corrected by the elections board a couple of days ago.


May 11, 2012 5:25 pm

Now it’s time to ban all benefits for unmarried opposite-sex partners, too. And unless you’re listed on the birth certificate or have legally adopted a child, no claiming them as a dependent on your taxes or health insurance. If you’re not married, it’s no longer considered domestic violence, it’s simple assault and battery. Give the people what they voted for.


May 11, 2012 5:05 pm

Hey North Carolina? Your going to have to make an amendment to ban fishing and sales of fish without fins. That’s a sin too.


May 11, 2012 5:04 pm

I wonder how many of these so called “religious” folk take in homeless people, donate to charity, volunteer to charity? Hate and ignorance is NOT God’s work. LET GOD judge. Most y’all need to worry about your spouses cheating on you, your kids having sex and your employers stealing your pensions.


May 11, 2012 5:01 pm

I hope you “BIBLE” experts also DON’T have sex on menstrual cycles, eat shrimp, have pre-marital sex, work on Sunndays etc. Those too are also sins mentioned in the same passage.

Always curious to hear both sides

May 11, 2012 5:01 pm

“In Dare County, the amendment was voted down by 51 percent of the voters.” Not according to the interactive map on WRAL. @ Randy – what you said! I lived in the OBX for several years & loved it – but hated the tourists that constantly complained about e-v-e-r-y-thing…they were mainly the ones from PA, NY & NJ. We always wondered why they visited the OBX just to go golfing & surf the internet, not surfing in the waves & never stepping foot on the sand! For their sakes, I hope they research a little more about all of the other 29 states before they make vacation plans… :)


May 11, 2012 4:52 pm

Bring them to Asheville! The rest of the state (aside from, what, seven other counties?) may have voted for Amendment one, but Buncombe County was an Against. Bring the love our way where we choose to spread it, just don’t tear down our mountains!

KDH Rezident Evil

May 11, 2012 4:50 pm

@ Mike,
If you would have read all the posts, you’d have noticed where Mountainguy specifically referred to a company taking NC off the table as a possible location for their annual conference as a result of the passage of this amendment. We’re $300,000 down from that loss alone. As usual, you can’t seem to hear what anybody else has to say over the ranting of your own voice.

Nobody knows what the eventual loss might be. Human nature being what it is, many posters are probably right that people will move on to some other topic de jour. The vacation rentals that are the core of our economy were made long ago with expensive, non-refundable deposits, and I don’t think many people are in a situation where they can afford to make a statement by pulling out this late in the game. (Though if anybody is, it would be nice to know.)

My long range prediction is this: Just as integration of the armed forces helped bring racial equality, the repeal of Don’t Ask Don’t Tell (DADT) will help bring equal rights for the LGTBQ folks. It’s hard to celebrate and honor people fighting and dying for you, and at the same time deny a segment of those folks equal rights.

And I do hope that, just as the bible thumpers on these posts extol us to accept the “will of the people” and “respect the decision”, when this terrible amendment is either voted or struck down, they will silently respect that the constitutional system they so admire today can cut both ways.

Just Where

May 11, 2012 4:46 pm

“Crucial to the historical-critical approach is the question of translation, since not only is any version of the Bible we read today a translation, the original texts in the original language have been lost. It is the historical critical method, among other things, that allows scholars to assess the biblical advocacy of slavery, the Bible’s relegation of women to subordinate status, and its injunctions against homosexuality in their historical and literary contexts and question their relevance or their compatibility with the Christian message of love, salvation, and hope (…) Using the examples of the Bible’s positions on slavery and women, I argue by analogy—as do many others, gay and straight—that the Scriptural injunctions applying to homosexuality are perhaps in need of the same type of thoroughgoing review that was applied to the issue of slavery and the status of women.” (Rev.), John TFarrell, Ph.D.


May 11, 2012 4:43 pm

Historically speaking, marriage was not a religious rite – it was a social contract with the purpose of establishing property transference and ownership rights. Religion simply appropriated the rite like so many other secular traditions.

Prince of Peeps

May 11, 2012 4:43 pm

Gee whiz! I bet there’s never been such a whine convention outside of NAPA Valley. And as usual, the libs posting here have a monopoly on intelligence, and are all legal scholars. Anyone who has the audacity to have a differing opinion is just an ignorant hick. This is elitism to the maximum and political correctness on steroids.

If you don’t want to come to NC to vacation, that is certainly your right, but I’d bet that less than 2% of the aforementioned threats will actually be followed through. Just a little temper tantrum.

And fyi, to the several who alluded to it, God didn’t make people homosexual. You’d like to believe it, because that would forgive your behavior and give you acceptability in society, but you’ll have to look elsewhere for the cause of your deviancy. God did create you, and you deserve to be loved (not speaking sexually or emotionally, but with God’s love,) but the majority believes homosexuality is an immoral lifestyle, same as prostitution, premarital sex, or any other sin of lust. The sad thing is that most people in today’s society seem willing to ignore their conscience to satisfy their lusts, and adopt a philosophy of “don’t judge me, I won’t judge you.” Though we are not to judge men’s souls, we are exhorted to judge their fruits. (No, that’s not a homophobic slur, it’s in the Bible, and before anyone calls me self-righteous, I don’t claim to be perfect.) To the prostitute, Jesus said, “Your sins are forgiven. Go, and sin no more.” The second sentence is just as important as the first.

There are those who disagree with our interpretation, and many who don’t believe in God at all, of course, and one day we will find our who is right. If it’s any consolation to those who “suffer injustice” here on this earth, our lives are but a blink of the eye, but eternity lasts for ever. If you don’t like this life, let’s hope you aren’t on the wrong side of the next one.

Daniel Alita

May 11, 2012 4:37 pm

Whatever happened to separation of Church and State? I am all for people’s freedom of religion and I respect that. But stop trying to make it about god. It’s about hate and nothing else. Created equal. But some have forgotten that


May 11, 2012 4:32 pm

What is really funny is King James of the King James Version Bible was gay…well, bisexual at most. How ironic.

Divine Grace

May 11, 2012 4:27 pm

Congratulations to the citizens of North Carolina for locating someone to read the Amendment to you.

(The rest of the U.S. knows how afraid you are of that thare fancy book-learnin’!


May 11, 2012 4:15 pm

Please…. Please…. stay away from NC if you can not respect our right to vote. You are the same whiners that ruin the whole vacation experience for everyone within ear shot of your constant complaints. Frankly we need more regular folks that do not act out and press their beliefs on the Outer Banks. We welcome you here on vacation, so relax and leave your attitude at home. If you can’t do that goooooo somewhere else !


May 11, 2012 4:14 pm

Separation of church and state in the United States …
Let’s tax the church


May 11, 2012 4:13 pm

I live in NC , and I am glad that we don’t have same sex marriage , don’t like go some where else , i have gay friends and family i love them , but that don’t mean i have to agree with it . i don’t go to church every Sunday but i believe in god and i only hope he don’t send all these sinners to hell


May 11, 2012 4:02 pm

This is from Aaron Polkey via Jonathan Capehart, of the Washing Post. The last line is superb: “I believe that non-religious legal recognition of gay marriages (as the law would recognize any heterosexual couple married outside of a church, as well as non-Christian couples) does absolutely nothing to change, disrespect, hamper, or diminish the institution of Christian (or any other religious) marriage. As Christ recognizes all who seek a Christian marriage, the law should protect all couples who seek the mature comfort of marriage in general. Judgment is up to God; equal protection here on Earth is up to us.”

Since when does a Constitution go about removing civil rights as opposed to protecting them? And, as far as a majority vote goes–oppressed minorities have never had the majority vote–women’s rights, the civil rights movement, the youth vote were passed by a Congress that didn’t necessarily go with the will of the people.

Moreover, this vote was held during a Primary election, when there weren’t many Democratic issues to be decided, so many more personal freedom thinkers didn’t bother to vote, thinking there was no way in Hell the state of NC could possibly pass such an incredibly poorly written, ignorant, backward, hateful law. Many folks I’ve spoken with were incredulous about the result. If the right hadn’t pressured for a PRIMARY election vote, we might just reverse those numbers on the “majority”.

Boycott NC

May 11, 2012 4:00 pm

Glad to see this article made the paper, and I hope people will take notice.

Our family is staying home this year and we are encouraging others to do the same. According to the NC statistics on tourism, from 2010 the average visitor spends $598 while in NC.

The Boycott NC Facebook page has 373 people who like the page and agree with the premise that one should not support states who put civil rights up to a vote. If those 373 people stay home, it will prevent $223,054.00 from entering NC.

373 people times the average of $598.00 = $223,054.00

Was putting same sex marriage up for the vote when it was already illegal worth nearly 1/4 of a million dollars?

The page has reached over 16,000 people. If those 16,000 people agree and stay home, it will keep $9,568,000.00 out of NC.

16,000 times the average of $598= $9,568,000.00

Now I have to ask, was it worth letting a small percentage of your voters (63% of eligible voters stayed home) possibly cost you 9.5 million dollars?

For those of you commenting on the other states, they are not getting my money either. My family is staying home this year and using our money to support fair minded politicians who worry about the state of the country more than they worry about same sex marriage.

It is too bad the voters of NC did not care enough to vote, or cared about same sex marriage more than they cared about the things listed in this article.

“After a tough fall and winter of dealing with the aftermath of Hurricane Irene, discussions over ferry taxes, beach closures, beach driving permits, game fish regulations, state budget cuts to our local attractions, and even challenges with building the bridges and road structures we need, this is just another challenge at a difficult time for one of the few remaining strong industries in our state,” Brady-Daniels said.

One person commented that it was OK if all those people stay home because it will give people in NC a chance to tour the Outer Banks. I wonder with the unemployment rate being so high, exactly who he believes has the money to take the place of my family.

Good NC! You are going to need it, unless you repeal this new law!



May 11, 2012 3:29 pm

And don’t forget junkman catch as many fish as we want. Yehaw!

Just Sayin...

May 11, 2012 3:17 pm

“Respect and consideration for others”, as long as you’re not against gay marriage. Hypocrites!

As far as tourism is concerned, this is a non-issue. Give it a few weeks and folks will be boycotting something else.


May 11, 2012 3:16 pm

I say we wait and see. My guess is, nothing noticeable will change. The Chamber is hearing from those very few people who are on the extreme fringe. And, it’s obvious they are extreme because they obviously don’t realize how many other states they’ll have to boycott as well (including Virginia). Reminds me of when a few extreme Christians attempted to boycott Disney…made absolutely no difference. Time will tell.


May 11, 2012 2:33 pm

I tell you now I truly dont beleive MS ANGIE DANIELS, She’s over exagerating, Lets really see who cancels their reservation I bet not ONE! This place will be packed all summer!


May 11, 2012 2:13 pm

To Susan P. – Your figures are not correct! 61% of the NC Population did NOT vote for this Amendment…..the 61% was only the percentage of the total number of people who voted in the Primary, NOT 61% of the POPULATION.

I’m heartened to read so many intelligent comments from the many of us who are appalled by this horrendous amendment to the Constitution of North Carolina.


May 11, 2012 2:10 pm

That’s ok Where I go on vacations has nothing to do with what they do are don’t do in that state. So sad u feel that way. The Outer Banks and the State of NC. great place to live and visit.


May 11, 2012 1:52 pm

Looks like the beaches will be empty so the red necks can drive their trucks on them, drink beer, tote guns and trash talk gays. God Bless America.


May 11, 2012 1:34 pm

And how has DOG spoken? Did you and he chit chat over a cup of green tea and scones? This is utter nonsense–but wait, yeah, I guess DOG does not want HIS CHILDREN to be happy, right? Because according to the BLAHBLE, we are ALL DOG’S children, YES or NO???

John A Gasbarre

May 11, 2012 1:33 pm

John A Gasbarre

May 11, 2012 1:33 pm


May 11, 2012 1:25 pm

What ever happened to the separation of church and state? The government has no business in making laws on marriage whether gay or straight. Keep your religious and cultural beliefs where they belong… where does this issue fit in the business of running a government?


May 11, 2012 1:15 pm

What dumbfounds me is how “Tea Party” advocates can preach “personal liberty and freedom,” yet in this basic case where we see it before our eyes/votes, they choose to take that specific freedom away. The key point here is personal aka individual rights/freedoms. If tea-types are all for “personal liberty/freedom,” then WTF is going on here???

Note, a key point is also a distinction between sacramental and civil marriage. From the government’s perspective, people should be able to do as they please. If gays wish to “marry” aka, civil union to share taxes, benefits, medical comforts, even child rearing, then so be it. That’s freedom right?

However, in a Christian religious context, do not marry gays in a church. If the church is against it, do not allow it. That’s freedom right?

All in all, those who oppose gay marriage are the vocal “defenders of personal freedoms” and strive to keep the government out of our lives, yet in this basic simple case, we see that mindset completely turned on its head.

A key point highlighting the absurdity and utter lack of creditability for “tea party” advocates. We see a very basic example of “personal freedom” on trial in this case, and they fight against it, rather than for it. Simply nonsense, and as “Defenders of personal liberty and Freedom,” well… tea party folks, you are full of BS!


May 11, 2012 1:10 pm

I believe a great deal of the information is referring to it as a civil union–maybe some as marriage, but you think even clarifying it as civil union is going to stop the babble about religion, the bible and DOG?? I DON’T THINK SO


May 11, 2012 12:54 pm

Everyone has an opinion which you are entitled to, and you have rights which some people don’t have… two sides to everything–you have a valid point and so do we


May 11, 2012 12:52 pm

Get over yourself buddy–they do a lot more than most. IT helps the economy and opens up free thinking people to see what we are all about–for the narrow minded horse blinders on type people like yourself, YOU WILL NEVER change—


May 11, 2012 12:49 pm

To me, “gay” means happiness. “Homesexuality” gives Homosexuals happiness. God and the Outer Banks are in the happiness business. None of us have a choice in these matters…it is what it is…the vote means nothing. It is illegal for all of you to have sex outside the missionary postion in NC…Bye everybody! Finally the bridge burners have a plan! Sorry to have to add my morsel to your molehill/mountain of meglomania.


May 11, 2012 12:42 pm

God has spoken through His Word the Bible. Read among many scriptures Romans Chapter 1:18-32. Have you read this Rev. Carl?

Amanda A

May 11, 2012 12:36 pm

OK, while I’m really appalled at NC for passing this amendment, why would buying everything you need for the weekend in Virginia be any better? They’ve had a marriage amendment like the new one in NC since 2006! Do people really forget things that easily? Besides, VA is now a leading force in the war on women. Why do they deserve more tax dollars than NC?


May 11, 2012 12:26 pm

Since there is talk of a boycott let it start with the gay pride people in june


May 11, 2012 12:02 pm

Oh, and if people don’t come to visit, it’s them that will suffer the loss. The first time we came to the OBX we were infected with the place, from the 4WD section all the way to Ocracoke, and have been back about 15 times in the last 6 years.

It’s a beautiful place to vacation – and that’s all I have to say about that…


May 11, 2012 11:59 am

Couldn’t care less about the amendment. We’ll be back on the OBX in June and December, just like every year. We love the area, we’re not gay, so it’s irrelevant to us and whether gay folks marry in NC or not is just not a big issue with our family…

Got a lot of friends out there and we love the area. Even looking to buy a lot on Ocracoke Island to retire on… Ultimately, that’s all that matters to us – and I think a lot of folks will feel this way as well.


May 11, 2012 11:45 am

I don’t have a problem with gay marrage. Why can’t they be just as miserable as the rest of us. I do think the people that are taking it out on us trying to cancel their vacations should look and see that it didn’t pass here. It will take years of fighting for them to get their rights. Tis the american way. They will always get my vote. It doesn’t hurt me or my family.


May 11, 2012 11:43 am

Good Lord, I cannot believe how lame brain some of these comments are–you people are very narrow minded, If marriage is so sacred, why is the divorce rate so high between men and women. Anne, it is just obvious that you are the back end of a mule, as is your friend, Produ NC Resident. Didnt God make gay people too? Divine creation and all? You people really need to wake up and smell the coffee brewing because one day, you may be in the midst of something like this and your religious babble won;t fly

Susan P

May 11, 2012 11:43 am

I would have benefited by the failure of Amendment 1. However, sadly many of the posts ignore the fundamental basics of the US. When there is a vote, the majority rules. 61% of the North Carolina population voted Yes, that is a majority. 31 of 50 states have a similar law. That’s a majority. People are intitled to their beliefs, unless those beliefs cause you to committ an act that is illegal or immoral. Why/ how have we reached the point that people believe minorities have the right to dictate how the majority must believe. Have of the people who are being nasty, vulgar and rude considered a compromise, change one word, marriage to civil union. And have any of them ever lived where there is not majority rule. Not pleasant

Kevin Gray Conner

May 11, 2012 11:34 am

I propose that everyone take a look at history in order to learn that marriage was/is a religious rite. Government involved itself in matters of a relious nature with the creation of the Uniform Marriage & Marriage License Act in 1923.


May 11, 2012 11:25 am

For all those who post comments such as, “…that’s they way God wants it…” would you kindly ask God to speak for him or herself since you are not doing a very good job at it. Oh, one more thing, last time I checked, God doesn’t discriminate, you do.


May 11, 2012 11:16 am


Before the Loving vs Virginia decision of 1967, the majority of the states had laws or amendments banning interracial marriage. Before that all of the southern states had segregation laws (not to mention a number of other states) Are you seriously saying you really believe that the majority gets to decide if the minority is allowed equal rights?

“We hold these truths to be self-evident, that all men are created equal, that they are endowed by their Creator with certain unalienable Rights, that among these are Life, Liberty and the pursuit of Happiness.” Except if you are gay [NC and 30 other state edition].

Here’s hoping that the history of the US holds true and that once again when enough bigoted, old dinosaurs die things will change for equality.


May 11, 2012 11:06 am

I notice the many spelling errors in the comments made by the people who apparently voted “for”. That tells me something.

I can’t really say anything else that hasn’t already been said, except to the heterosexual population, you don’t like homosexuals–then QUIT making them.


May 11, 2012 10:53 am

This is addressed to everyone who says “We don’t need you.” I want to emphasize what Ms. Brady-Daniels says in this article: “After a tough fall and winter of dealing with the aftermath of Hurricane Irene, discussions over ferry taxes, beach closures, beach driving permits, game fish regulations, state budget cuts to our local attractions, and even challenges with building the bridges and road structures we need, this is just another challenge at a difficult time for one of the few remaining strong industries in our state,”

Seriously, to say “we don’t need you is a bit too naive.” To lash out with words is one thing. But when our wallets start to reflect the implications of this amendment, we might all be singing a different tune.


May 11, 2012 10:44 am

Here’s reality once again, 31 states including VA, NC, GA, FL, AL, MS, TN, KY, and TX have passed a marriage amendment with more on the way. Even CA passed Prop 8, now held up in court. If Mountainguy’s company sticks to it’s guns he’ll be enjoying his conference in Canada, Mexico, or the Caribbean. Somehow, I don’t think so.

dave douglas

May 11, 2012 10:43 am

This is a media circus folks! Wake up!!!!!


May 11, 2012 10:38 am

There is absolutely nothing in the Marriage Amendment that allows anyone to be assaulted by anyone else, not legally. This amendment did not suddenly vacate the rest of NC law. It specifically, and simply defines marriage and disallows any union that is not marriage. If you are in a common law situation it just became certain that if the criteria are met, you are now married. Otherwise, any unmarried man or woman is still covered by the same laws, and there will not be a sudden spat of confusion over whether a broken nose is harm or whether the inflicting party should be held accountable.


May 11, 2012 10:31 am

31 states have passed a Marriage Amendment, and passed them by nearly a 2 to 1 margin each time. NC was the last Southern state to join in having such an amendment. Every generation for the past 40 years has said, “what’s the big deal” in their youth, and “hell no” as parents and grand-parents. Americans are by and large, proud that they have not gone down the European, “if it feels good do it” road. The more there is a push to accept widening the scope of marriage, the more likely there will be a Marriage Amendment added to the US Constitution. Despite the propaganda that this is a “generational” issue and that the polls are shifting for same sex marriage, this is disproved each time a state passes a Marriage Amendment.

A Thought for a Penny

May 11, 2012 10:26 am

Mountainguy, you’re my hero.


May 11, 2012 10:23 am

I hope you all realize that this Amendment failing would NOT have made it legal for homosexual couples to marry. It was never about that. What our beautiful, ignorant state has done is to strip rights and protection against domestic violence from the women that had the sense NOT to marry their abuser, stripped children of unmarried couples from receiving healthcare, and prevented long-term, life partners from getting to see each other in the hospital before they die.

So keep patting yourselves on the back, and talking about how God approves of what you’ve done. But believe it or not folks, this country wasn’t built on the Bible, it was built to be a place of freedom and opportunity for anyone, no matter what their religious beliefs. I, for one, will not shut up and take this sitting down, but intend to fight for my rights as an unmarried woman, and for the rights of all the 222,800 unmarried couples in this state.

“We fight, and we fail, and we fight, and we fail, and we keep fighting until we SUCCEED.”

A Thought for a Penny

May 11, 2012 10:23 am

You should always stand up for what you truly believe in. Whether or not it supports the majority. Honestly, I agree with “can’t we all just get along?” because he/she is absolutely right. This doesn’t JUST have an affect on same sex relationships; it’s about all unmarried women. We’re moving backwards here. A women can get beaten by her boyfriend and may not be able to get emergency protection based on the judge. Does this not scare you all?

Rev Carl

May 11, 2012 10:21 am

Fine and good to tell the tourists “don’t let the door hit you where biology split ya” until someone you know who is dependent on tourist business loses their job, house, etc. As a Morehead City native, my formative years were spent working at restaurants and at establishments along Bogue Banks, which has a measurable impact from tourist dollars. In an already tightened economy, we didn’t need another reason to tell people we don’t want their business.

Was AGAINST this from the start, and now supporting the repeal or judicial overturn of this horrid amendment.

Sandy Mac

May 11, 2012 10:12 am

One issue where fundamentalist Christians and Muslims can agree — and a giant step toward theocracy. That’s what the Founding Fathers were trying to escape, wasn’t it?


May 11, 2012 10:03 am

I did go to vote even though I am registered non-partisan because of this amendent. This is a matter that should have been put on the ballots in the general election in November not the primary in May. It’s sad to see what this country is becoming and going to destroy itself in the process. Also, sad when a person from another state wins their primary by campaigning that he will not compromise if he goes to Washington. This country is becoming a dictatorship not a democracy.


May 11, 2012 10:03 am

You might be able to get those deals for a year or two, but then those small businesses that depend so heavily on out-of-state tourism will be gone. Those mom and pop places that are barely holding on won’t be able to stand the losses, even if it’s only 10%.

The difference most people have failed to realize here is that NC residents showed that they fail to educate themselves over the ramifications of a poorly worded and overly broad Amendment that was unnecessary — same-sex marriage was already banned by statute in NC, and incidentally that is unlikely to be overturned other than by the US Supreme Court.

Here’s a news flash — if the US Supreme Court determines that prohibitions against same-sex marriage are unconstitutional at a FEDERAL level, the contents of the NC Constitution are largely irrelevant.

Here’s another thing to think about. One company that I work with was planning their annual conference. These are very big deals, and the budget for them approaches $300K. 2014 was looking at 3 sites, one of which was in NC. In January, word went out to suspend consideration of any NC location until after the vote. May 9 the message came through — NC was off the table not only for the annual conference, but for ANY regional meetings that might be necessary as well.

That $300K multiplied with the purchases by spouses and families outside of the conference would have been an incredible boost to the local economy. Now, it will go to another state.

Large companies, especially those that are highly populated with younger, more educated individuals, are going to work to keep those people happy. This means looking at how their gay and lesbian coworkers, friends and relatives are treated impacts where they spend their money. NC Could have simply stayed where it was and avoided the issue. Instead, by making such a profound statement, they’ve brought it to consciousness and the repercussions are going to be significant.

By comparison — it’s one thing to THINK that your neighbor is racist. It’s quite another to go to dinner with him and sit there while he loudly tells racist jokes and uses offensive language. By going public with it, deniability no longer exists for these companies, and they are going to do what is necessary to keep both shareholders and employees happy with their positions.

So have your revival meetings, talk about what good Christians you are and how you’ve held to a biblical standard. When your churches start to close down, little league teams have no uniforms and the school band program is discontinued because it’s down to 2 drummers, a tuba player and a saxaphone, all because the economic impact of this Amendment has put people out of business and they can no longer contribute locally, maybe reality will start to kick in.


May 11, 2012 10:03 am

I’m a Raleigh resident and vacation annually in Southern Shores. I’m very disappointed in my fellow North Carolinians this week and I’m glad to see the negative response to the decision. The amendment is unnecessary, discriminatory, and shameful.

Respect and consideration for others. Equality. Love. North Carolina made a major announcement against those qualities this week.

Hal Donahue

May 11, 2012 9:51 am

This is yet another conservative backlash that hides behind religious belief and bigotry just as previous efforts did to justify slavery, segregation and bans on interracial marriage. Why visit a state full of such injustice? Too bad the citizens couldn’t work as hard on creating jobs and building education. Sad but typical


May 11, 2012 9:41 am

It’s important to remember that while this amendment did indeed pass, it cannot accurately be called what “the public” or “the majority” wanted. Only 2.1 million of our state’s 9.6 million residents voted, and of that number, the “For” votes were 1.3 million vs. 830,000. To discount the opinion of the 830K that voted “against” by saying “North Carolina has spoken” is misrepresentation. Yes, it is the system we have in place, but the 830K are still trying to educate people about what this amendment really encompasses.


May 11, 2012 9:37 am

Anne, the only thing about “Adam and Eve, and not Adam and Steve,” is that it already matches the negative stereotypes outsiders hav about the south….
A family where the boys kill each other and have incest with the sisters, like Adam and Eve’s family did.


May 11, 2012 9:31 am

I feel that you shouldn’t tell anyone else how to live, you wouldn’t want that and we have no right to enforce that on anyone’s relationships. That being said, I think the point that we are missing is that it is just one more thing to keep people from our state. Regulations are forcing people to go elsewhere for their vacations and, like it or not, the majority of OBX’ERS depend on that income to live. This is just yet another issue where the state plays a key roll in making it more difficult.

Mainland Native

May 11, 2012 9:29 am

Its funny reading these comments from all these “local” people. All of you idiots running your mouth about how “we don’t need these people” or “we don’t care if you stay up north”, you all are shooting yourself in the foot. I can’t believe you are all ignorant to the fact that these people do make our livelihood!! Yes, it is not always fun dealing with some of these people, but they do pay our bills and support our families with their money. All you people that voted FOR the amendment, need TO MOVE YOUR ASSES OUTTA THE STATE AND NOT COME BACK LIKE SOME OF OUR VISITORS. YOU ARE TRULY A POOR REPRESENTATION OF A NORTH CAROLINIAN!!


May 11, 2012 9:29 am

What ever happened to separation of church and state? If the government – at all levels, local, state, national – would work together on real problems in the country, rather than issues that I feel are between individuals, their consciences and whatever Higher Power they choose to worship, perhaps we all would lead better lives.

It is also frightening that there are numerous parts of the amendment that could endanger heterosexual & civil relationships. A positive vote here was, I think, a knee jerk to headlines. Too many of us vote without proper knowledge of all the implications of the issue.

Tourists, don’t shoot the messenger – Dare County voted against the amendment.


May 11, 2012 9:28 am

I am tired of those who are saying it was an overwhelming majority who voted to so called protect marriage. What are they protecting it from? The reality is 36% of registered voters voted in this election, so 61% of that 36% is just 21% of the states registered voters. This was not a majority nor a significant, or overwhelming, or substantial majority of NC residents proclaiming their desire to incorporate discrimination into our state constitution. As to the comment on the 26 states where they can spend they can spend their money… I am from NC and will be doing the same… My 4th of July beach trip will be spent somewhere other than NC. I hope the 26 states have an amazing economic boost from those who choose to spend their vacation dollars in their inclusive states.


May 11, 2012 9:25 am

Angie Daniels is a DEM so I dont beleive these threats, It aint gona hurt my wallet, The bottom line is the LIBRALS an the Gays hate the BIBLE or should I say FEAR IT, They want us to change to their BELEIFS and hate OURS, PIGS FEATHERS!!!

Mainland Native

May 11, 2012 9:24 am

Thank you Anne, its people like you and your mindset that have turned this place into a joke!! You’re truly not a representation of an Outer Banker! Makes me sad to see what people have evolved into around here! Our hometown used to be full of great people!


May 11, 2012 9:20 am

WOW! First off, what one’s love life is no concern to me, I see it as, YOU DO AS YOU PLEASE. Secondly, I am amazed that tourist feel that throwing how much they spend here and threatening to never come here again is pretty sad. I believe the state has other things that are major issuses that need to be addressed but instead we are fighting over marriage being for man and woman, or for the gays and lesbians….oh lets throw the aliens from planet sdhfjkashfk in there too. Get with it people and address the real issues going on with this place please and get them taken care of!

Selena K

May 11, 2012 9:19 am

“Live and Let Live” is a motto that more people should live by. Everyone should just MIND THEIR OWN BUSINESS.

As a married heterosexual woman who occasionally votes (gasp!) Republican, I say to those who voted for the Amendment:

In “defending marriage” those of you who voted in this short-sighted manner have potentially harmed women and families in ways you did not fully think through.

Congratulations for making our state look more backwards, undereducated and ignorant than ever before. You must be proud to be so holier-than-thou and further to KNOW what God thinks. So how about telling us some inside stock tips, then? Or maybe some winning Lotto numbers?

david O

May 11, 2012 9:13 am

People are so short sighted. This Amendment is a disaster in so many ways–especially in it’s verbiage that leaves it for courts and judges to translate in the future. Our state wrote hate into our most sacred document. Constitutions are designed to give rights not take them away–and especially not take them away from a minority-via popular vote.

This is a complete disgrace to our state. Using the bible to support your stance is especially short sighted…given the few passages that are quoted also say ‘women who aren’t virgins at marriage should be stoned to death’ and condemn the eating of shell fish, shaving beards etc. At what point, will the real message of love and tolerance be heard over the cutting and pastings of passages.

I am born and raised in NC and never have I been more ashamed of this state. As Dr. King said, ‘The arc of the Moral Universe is long but it bends towards justice’

This hurts businesses, straight unmarried couples and single parents–more than anyone else.


May 11, 2012 9:00 am

Who cares. Let ‘em go. Don’t need ‘em anyway.

Live and let live

May 11, 2012 8:56 am

Good job guys ! Messing with our economy right before season ! Did u not learn anything from the civil war…. I mean common really ignorance is not bliss ! Grow up !

Island Safety

May 11, 2012 8:54 am

So…. we absolutely need, can’t survive without, the people who want to drive on the beach but can easily survive without the families who believe in the Golden Rule? Government tyranny is abominable if it restricts YOUR right to drive on our sand but it’s alright when it restricts someone’s right to have a family… gay or straight. No civil unions. Children losing protections is ok. This is another paranoid overreach of the radical Christianists who are taking over this country.


May 11, 2012 8:53 am

Sounds like a marketing opportunity to me. Come vacation at one of the best beaches in the world where activist homosexuals stay away. You may end up with more visitors than ever once the world gets out that it is a family friendly destination that homosexuals choose not to visits. Hooray!


May 11, 2012 8:45 am

The issue isn’t that people are asking you to go against your morality. The issue is that the religious morality (even by the majority) has no place dictating governmental law. That is the very definition of the separation of church and state. As ‘can’t we all just get along’ said, the existence of marriage as a state and church institution are completely separate things in this time. Your church and religious leader has a right to grant a marriage through your religious institution. That religious institution should not (according to the U.S. Constitution) have the right to dictate the terms of legal/governmental marriage because that is NOT separating church and state.

This law is also deeply discriminatory towards all couples. Not just homosexual couples who do not have an official marriage. I do not believe in forcing other people to define their relationships based on my own personal preferences. What others do in their own lives is really none of my business and isn’t any of yours either. The fact that 29 other states have voted in favor of similar laws is not a comfort. It’s terrifying.

@Ken. The public shouldn’t have the right to speak on this because essentially it is a majority voting against a minority to oppress them. It’s not wrong to have a different opinion. It is wrong to try to use that opinion to willfully impose your morals on someone else’s life. That’s what every person did who voted for this amendment. You can have your views. You should not force other people to live by them. That’s what this amendment has done. Clearly you don’t respect the LGTBQ community all that much because you don’t trust them to make decisions about their own lives without forcing your own views on them. This vote was not freedom of speech. If you were to say stand in a public square and declare that you believe that marriage is between a man and a woman – that would be freedom of speech. The legality of the public to vote on this issue remains to be seen because it is incredibly likely to eventually be found unconstitutional.

I think a lot of people used religion to justify slavery, the illegal status of interracial marriage, and other bigotry. It was wrong then and it is wrong now. A truly FREE nation does not dictate it’s laws based on the majority’s religion – that is an affront to equality. Contrary to popular belief, the United States is NOT a Christian nation. The founding documents spell that out pretty plainly.


May 11, 2012 8:43 am

Let the gay and lesbian community have equal rights. They are regular U.S. citizens. If they love each other and want to care for their partner, then why not give them legal rights like the rest of the married couples? It does not have to be approved by your church of choice. Just allow them the same freedom and security as the rest of the married couples in this state. They are regular people, not a group to be ostracized.

Here is a thought. What about a law to give gay and lesbian couples the same benefits as married couples, but we call it something else. Does they gay community want or need to be “married” or just to be able to have the same rights? Personally, I think they should be allowed to marry.

Heterosexual- Married
Homosexual- “Fill in the blank”

Both unions have the same benefits. Would that satisfy the Christians and the gay community?


May 11, 2012 8:27 am

So the fallout is already starting? Hmm, yeah, we knew it would. Hate to say, I told ya so…I don’t blame people one bit for NOT contributing to the state’s tourism industry because of the passing of this amendment.


May 11, 2012 8:26 am

Ummmmm–OK. “Voting with one’s dollar” is a time-honored concept. IF, however, there are genuine consciences (as contrasted to mere spite) behind that dollar vote, then we can expect to see the same individuals boycotting travel to, and business within, Washington, DC whenever Congress takes a vote with which they disagree.


May 11, 2012 8:26 am

Its a shame! I believe any business owner or sane individual will agree, we want and NEED all of you to vacation here!


May 11, 2012 8:07 am

I consider the outer banks as a family vacation spot. That said, shame on those that don’t think a marrage is between a man and women. Who can raise a family where the oposing side cannot. God made Man and women for a reason.


May 11, 2012 8:01 am

I thought we had smarter people than that working for the Chamber. Who can beleive that people are going to come down here and not spend money. Gas up at the border. What are they going to do walk for a week? These people will come here and enjoy it and spend their money. They were just blowing off steam. Come on Chamber don’t blow this out of proportion. This July we will be stuck in traffic, waiting in line to eat and waiting in line at Food Lion.


May 11, 2012 7:59 am

And to Proud NC Resident I hope people do come because Outer Banks economy is already in the pits! Will you be renting a house? Let me know because I know a lot of realtors that need the money. Also make sure to shop at the local business when you come and not Wings. And if you are going to come help us out you make sure not to eat at any of the chain restaurants! (that includes McDonald’s) Also be sure you get your fishing tackle and bait at a local store and not Walmart. Are you able to do all that? We depend on our tourism to have food on our tables. This will be detrimental to our already struggling economy!


May 11, 2012 7:59 am

Adam and Eve can make gay babies…pray away the gay!


May 11, 2012 7:54 am

It seems some people have a problem separating “having an opinion” from “taking rights away from others”.

Way to go One Supporters.

Be proud of your ignorance.

Revel in your hate.

Maybe God actually didn’t screw up when making gay people… won’t that be a surprise when you get to the pearly gates?


May 11, 2012 7:46 am

Civil Rights should never be up for a popular vote and that is the major problem for me. To me this is a civil rights issue. I know that many people of color don’t see this as a civil rights issue because they believe that being a gay is a choice. Really? You really think people would choose to be marginalized and discriminated against by choice to the extent that the gay community has been? I had no choice in being black and I had no choice in being a lesbian. What I could chose to do was lie about who I am and to me that would be a bigger affront to God. Those that have a problem with homosexuality because of their beliefs are entitled to have their beliefs. When you take those beliefs and vote them into a state constitution and strip rights from other citizens of the state then things have gone too far. I have lived in NC my entire life and have loved visiting the Outer Banks during the summer. We have a vacation place there because my partner’s parents were educators and she spent every summer there growing up. We are still as a couple weighing our options about what we want to do now. Do we stay or do we go? I know some of you will say go, we don’t care to have you here and that is really sad to me. The next time there is a vote to amend the constitution and even if I agree with the amendment I will still vote no if that vote will strip the rights of another.


May 11, 2012 7:40 am

Oh well, this is the result of the gay rights activists trying to push something down America’s throat when they simply aren’t ready to accept to same-sex couples getting married. Heck, it wasn’t that long ago that it was a crime. If they were smart, they would have slowly pushed the issue, but instead they went “for the gold” and have caused a backlash that will now be so much harder for them to get out of in the coming years. Gay rights activists can cry and stomp around all they want to about equal rights, but when the MAJORITY of Americans disagree with the issue, you back off some and play your game right. They would be a lot further along in their quest if they simply would have played their cards.


May 11, 2012 7:31 am

i am proud that the majority in dare county voted the ammendment down. good that the majority of us are not short sighted haters. might be a good time to put this fact up on the web.


May 11, 2012 7:26 am

So proud of Dare County to vote against this amendment! One of only a few NC counties to do so!


May 11, 2012 7:23 am

the government needs to get out and stay out of personal choice decisions.


May 11, 2012 7:21 am

Also, I am a christian and I voted no to this amendment. With all the hate, jealousy, war, and poverty going on in the world today; I doubt God is worried about two men (or women) kissing.


May 11, 2012 7:15 am

I was born and raised in Nags Head, and while the majority of the state did support Amendment I their are still a lot of us that voted NO! Dare County was one of the few! If anything this shows the lack of education across our state. Instead of boycotting and hurting us further, why not help?


May 11, 2012 7:12 am

The folks who claim they will boycott NC are over-reacting.

I believe that VA,SC,GA, and FL ban it also. Will they boycott those beaches as well?

dave douglas

May 11, 2012 7:09 am

This was a ballot issue and it was voted on by the people and almost immediately our president stepped away from the voice of the people, so no doubt in the near future our tax dollars will be spent by the feds to challenge the voters (just like Arizona was about illegal immigration)! Folks this is nothing more than an effort to deflect attention away from real issues that do affect all of us and there are a plenty of those. I feel like the message this vote should send to Washington DC is that we don’t want the government in our bedrooms. To the folks that don’t want to visit this great state over this issue; please don’t come back because obviously you like it much better in New York, keep your money, keep your way of life and your standards where they work for you. Just keep the circus you like where it is as these are personal choices that should not ever be forced upon others. Please people don’t be fooled by “deflection”!


May 11, 2012 7:01 am

The comments on this page prove how DUMB most voters are. First of all, the bill wasn’t exclusively about “gay marriage”, it was about “domestic legal unions”, which includes heterosexual couples who live together, but aren’t married. You just lost couples rights that you had too, morons.

Secondly, too many people vote while dumb. Of people who didn’t know all that the bill does, it was favored 64% to 28%. The more people learned about the bill, the less they supported it.

Third, NC state law already bans gay marriage in this state. The bill was just a right-wing WASTE OF TIME, and gullible voters did exactly what smarter people in the NCGA knew they would. March to the polls just like a bunch of lemmings, and vote in favor of something that wasn’t even on most of your minds when you voted in the Republicans two years ago. You wanted jobs, which they’ve failed at doing, but you willingly voted for a marriage distraction that was as unnecessary as it is bad for business. You should’ve told the NCGA that you said you wanted jobs back in 2010, not that you wanted an UNNECESSARY amendment over marriage. But of course, most of you don’t know what the law already was.

May some of you unwed couples get your comeuppance the next time you try to file anything jointly.


May 11, 2012 6:47 am

As a native of NC, I am shocked by this…really are we as a state still so narrow minded. Isn’t it christianity that teaches you NOT TO JUDGE! What the hell does steve and bob getting married have anything to do with your life? NOTHING Grow up people and if you dont like looking at something, turn your head! Ruining marrige…really yea cuz a divorce rate of 51% shows you how sacred marrige is to people.


May 11, 2012 6:33 am

Hello??? Some of you say God intended it to be only man and woman. BUT . . . who made gays? God did. Don’t judge lest you be judged!


May 11, 2012 5:31 am

Ferry “taxes” and spending “70K” for a weekend in September, are you sure you have the right state?

Glad to be herein NC

May 11, 2012 4:00 am

This is why I left NY God bless NC for there dission.


May 11, 2012 3:10 am

I really find it scary that some people say they support a deliberate act to oppress and discriminate against a certain group of people. Some say, “This was about the definition of marriage.” However, I think this “definition” was just a cover-up to justify enacting legislation that wrongfully denies certain people some of their basic human and civil rights. The U.S. Constitution clearly states that ALL men (not just straight men) are created EQUAL, and that we ALL have the right to life, liberty and the pursuit of happiness. Therefore, why is it correct to allow only SOME people to pursue their happiness but not others???? Where is the “freedom” and “equality” so many in this country brag about??? Even our Pledge of Allegiance says, “…with LIBERTY and JUSTICE FOR ALL”. It is clear to me that the 30 states that have passed these unconscionable “laws” are blatantly violating and disrespecting our U.S. Constitution with EXTREME prejudice! Bigotry, hatred and discrimination are NOT American values or values that you will find anywhere in our Constitution, and they sure as heck aren’t Christian values! Our laws should not be made or decided by religious beliefs because they are SEPARATE, thus the separation of church and state! When are people going to understand that? Bottom line…I am extremely disappointed in the people who drafted this legislation and those who voted for it.


May 11, 2012 1:56 am

Right-wing religious nutbags that believe in talking snakes and burning bushes should be taken behind the tool shed and shot for adhering (when it fits their narrow world-view) to an archaic and flawed myth. It’s too bad, cause Jesus’ ways were awesome. Too bad his views are the antithesis of how these unchristian “christian” morons treat other people.

janet bagwell

May 11, 2012 1:07 am

the country as a whole has moved on. Blacks can now marry whites, no longer a felony, and mormons can have only one wife, things change. we’re in 2012, planning Mars trip and you’re talking about who can marry whom.

janet bagwell

May 11, 2012 1:04 am

what century are you in. North Carolina, is backward. you let cousins marry but not if they are gay, they should just say they are cousins, that was a joke on Tv.


May 11, 2012 12:11 am

Stop terrorism: Ban religion!

KDH Rezident Evil

May 10, 2012 11:53 pm

I’m glad they are speaking with their pocketbooks and wallets and I hope they follow through with their intentions. Economic sanctions are exactly what NC needs to wake people up.

As for other people coming to replace those staying away, please consider the posts to the Chamber of Commerce. These are not just gay families and individuals forswearing our state. This Amendment has left a bad taste in many people’s mouths.

Consider also that the supporters of the Amendment were chiefly from poor, rural areas of the state. Not knocking poor people, just saying they generally don’t have the money to spend to go on vacation and the OBX ain’t cheap. The supporters of this amendment will NOT be the ones replacing the visitors we loose.

But I do agree that Virginia is no better; if anything with their new transvaginal ultrasound law, they are decidedly worse.


May 10, 2012 11:51 pm

I guess some of these dim wits are not going to spend there money in the other 31 states that have previously brought this to vote. Most of them will do exactly like the blacks did in South Carolina when the black pied pipers announced a boycott of the state; they kept on coming. I cannot believe the mentality of some of these folks but I would rather they stay out than to come and contaminate my state with their twisted views. God bless North Carolina and the United States! He has already blessed us with the Outer Banks.

Mike C.

May 10, 2012 11:46 pm

I’m proud that the majority of Dare County voted against the un-constitutional Amendment 1. Its ashame the rest of the state did not follow suit. I believe it will be overturned eventually. Its wrong to deny simple civil rights to a large group of people based on a religion. This is America where we have the right to life, liberty and pursuit of happiness. It wasn’t that long ago marrage between an African American and White person was illegal, that was changed and this will too. For those that don’t agree with gay marrage, then don’t marry one! Freedom is more important than your feelings!

Proud NC Resident

May 10, 2012 11:41 pm

YAY, dont come back because we dont want or need you. Now maybe some of the proud North Carolinians that want to vacation in their own awesome state can afford to go to the outer banks and will be able find a vacancy.

you ought to be ashamed

May 10, 2012 11:41 pm

Whether you are for or against homosexuality, women everywhere ought to be ashamed for voting “for” this amendment. If you read the verbiage you will see that civil unions between men and women will no longer be recognized either. Do you have any idea what the means for women of domestic abuse? But what do you care? I’m sure your bibles say that a woman should “turn the other cheek”, even if her husband has bruised it.

Propositions like this have nothing to do with principles and sanctity. They are strictly financial. The fewer individuals that are legally recognized as being married, the less financial benefit the state must provide. Shame on your for allowing your own bigotry to make you a pawn.


May 10, 2012 11:25 pm

Thank you for this article, Sam. This provided another example of ways Amendment One hurt people that voters never intended to harm. I look forward to the day it is appealed.

can't we all just get along?

May 10, 2012 11:13 pm

It is really sad that the people in this great state that I grew up in and still live in today feel that marriage is something to be ruled by religion. First of all, marriage is no longer a religious institution, it is more of a state institution often celebrated in a house of God. For those of you who feel that it is still a religious institution, then go have your fancy church wedding, but think about where you get your marriage license (The town/county offices). Think about all of the county, state, and federal organizations that must be notified of your union. THIS IS NOT A CHURCH MATTER. This is a state matter. SEPARATION OF CHURCH AND STATE! Secondly, who is anyone to tell another individual how to run their life, who to marry, or whom to date? People are people and should all be treated with respect regardless of another person’s opinion. If you are heterosexual, what difference should it make to you if a homosexual couple gets married? As a heterosexual couple do you not have other things in your life to stress about than whether or not your neighbor is gay? Can’t our politicians get their heads out of their tails long enough to see how devastating this can be to our state?


May 10, 2012 11:12 pm

It’s gonna suck having to depend on the Yankees to free North Carolina’s minority citizens a SECOND time!


May 10, 2012 11:04 pm

Uhhhhh, don’t those people realize that VA also bans same-sex marriage?


May 10, 2012 11:02 pm

Gee joe, haven’t they already done that?


May 10, 2012 10:59 pm

People who react like those in the emails must truly be shallow to avoid us because of a statewide political vote.

Are they also avoiding the other 29 states that have voted for similar amendments?


May 10, 2012 10:58 pm

I realize that news of N.C. upholding the marriage amendment is controversial but the public has spoken. It would be difficult and unfair to say that the majority of North Carolina is full of bigots and homophobes. This is simply not true. Why is it wrong to have an opinion about marriage that differs from someone else? I read the passionate e-mail about not spending another dime of their money in N.C.; that is their right and personal choice. Don’t bully the residents into going against their moral code, personal beliefs or heart felt convictions. Likewise don’t feel bullied about holding on to a personal conviction that marriage is between a man and a woman. You probably think that I’m some crazed right winger Christian bigot writing this but you’ll be judging me prematurely. I know several gay/ lesbian individuals, work closely with others that are in gay marriages and frankly it doesn’t affect the way I treat them or how I respect them. I have not changed the way I view them in the least. I am a Christian and do believe that marriage is exclusively between a man and a woman. Does this make me a hater? Am I trying to control someone’s happiness and freedom? I don’t think so. I am simply expressing my freedom of speech and moral foundation. The world is not becoming a better place. Some may say that it because of people like me? I agree that Christians or rather people that hide behind the Christian faith have really turned a lot of people away by centuries of wrong doing. Christians need to be more like Jesus and less like the world. What would Jesus do? He might say what he already said, “your sins are forgiven, go and sin no more”. Just a thought.


May 10, 2012 10:47 pm

It sad that people all over our state only focus on certain aspects of the bible to justify their vote on Amendment One. I propose we make a new amendment banning the sale and fishing of all types of fish that do not have fins.
Leviticus 11:9-11:12


May 10, 2012 10:45 pm

There will be plenty of people to fill their loafers, I mean shoes.


May 10, 2012 10:38 pm

Buying groceries/gas/etc in my Commonwealth defeats the purpose of their boycott. We have a similar law here passes several years ago with overwhelming support.


May 10, 2012 10:33 pm

I for one live here and I am glad the bill passed to keep marriage between a man and a women that is the way God wanted it to be and that is the way it should stay I love obx and I am proud to be a tarheel


May 10, 2012 10:29 pm

With this type of logic this leaves them 18 states in which to vacation.


May 10, 2012 10:26 pm

Adam and Eve, NOT Adam and Steve…Just Sayin’…Keep it up in Cape Cod, we’ll be fine :)

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